Sunday, December 30, 2007

Only 366 days til Christmas...

Natalie and Abigail's first Christmas has come and gone. It's hard to believe. It was quite a Christmas, really, with grandparents and aunts and uncles everywhere.

Jo's mom, mema and sister all arrived on the Saturday before Christmas. My mom helped out tremendously, as usual, by cleaning and doing laundry. I promised her that one day she would come and not have to work so hard. She didn't believe me:-) She also cooked Christmas dinner which was good since I had declared I wanted nothing to do with it. If I had been in charge we would have had pizza and chinese food. I'm sure everyone was grateful to mom.

Christmas Eve we went to Aunt Reagan's and Uncle Jeff's for a joint celebration with Ben's parents and Reagan's mom, brother, sister-in-law, sister, and her boyfriend. Oh, and the two dogs and the cat. It was a lot of fun and Reagan prepared a feast. Yum, yum. Again, no cooking for me!

Christmas Eve was also very special as we instituted what I hope will become a yearly tradition. We attended the Christmas Eve 11pm service at Duke Chapel. It was really beautiful. The girls were so good. At first they looked all around and checked everything out. Then Mary Poppins, AKA Auntie Kimmy, managed to get them both to eat and to sleep. They slept through the pipe organ and even the Hallelujah Chorus. It was a beautiful service and a special thrill to be at Duke considering the girls' beginnings. It was also Ben's first time ever seeing the Chapel and he was quite impressed. I do hope this will be a yearly occurrence, although not necessarily at Duke Chapel since we had to get there before 10pm. We always went to Christmas Eve service when I was growing up and I loved it. The 11pm is my favorite. There is something so neat about getting out of church and it's Christmas Day. It's a feeling I love.

Christmas Day was rather quiet. We eventually woke up, hung out and opened presents. We had a lovely dinner prepared by my mom. Ben's parents also dropped by and Grandpa carried out a family tradition by reading the girls "The Night Before Christmas". It was really cute. He held them on his lap and read them the story. They loved it.

Poppy and Nanny arrived later in the evening which means all the grandparents saw the girls on Christmas Day. It really was a great day.

The girls received some greats gifts from everyone. Aunt Kimmy provided a very cool crib mobile with lights, sound, and moving parts. They really seem to like it. Nana AKA Gammy or Grammy (name change:-)) and Mema provided a great rolling toy that encourages children to chase it as they learn to crawl. They also bought the most beautiful Christmas ornaments, although those are mostly for mommy and daddy. Poppy and Nanny are donating money to the girls 529 plan. Grandpa and Ya-Yai got the girls the neatest banks. It counts the money (coins) as you put it in. The kids are going to LOVE them when they are old enough to play with money. They also came with a generous donation to their college fund. Uncle Jeff (NC State grad)and Aunt Reagan (UNC grad), who most certainly picked out the gifts gave the girls their first UNC T-shirts and the cutest onesies with their names on the back and "future tailgater" across the rear end. There were also finger puppets representing her trip to Africa.

Mommy and Daddy did pretty well too. We received a lot of nanny money as well as gift cards for dinners out and the movies. Everyone was very generous and we are very grateful.

Mommy and Daddy didn't do much for the girls this year. There was so little they needed thanks to the generosity of so many before they came home. I am trying to make them special little "lovies" - a stuffed animal/blanket combo patterned after the Lovie brand. I am making them out of a duck and frog (of course). It's slow going, but I'll get them finished eventually.

This Christmas was mostly about being grateful that the girls were home with us to celebrate. It was really wonderful having all our family around. I know next year will be really fun as the girls will be old enough to open their own presents.

As we celebrated the birth of Christ, we could not help but be reminded of the miraculous birth - and survival - of Natalie and Abigail. I sometimes read or hear stories of other 26-weekers and am constantly reminded of how incredibly fortunate and blessed we are. God has been so good to us. Above all, He has loved us so much that he sent his Son to guide and teach and save us. I am so, so glad He did.

Monday, December 24, 2007

My Own Etiquette Hell

There's this awesome site I go to: www.etiquettehell.com. If you are looking for hours of entertainment, check it out. There are two parts. The main pages are stories of people doing the most atrocious things. The other part is a forum where people post their own etiquette dilemmas and people can comment and give advice. I promise it's addicting.

One of the best sections is the "Thank You Notes" section. You will be gloriously, wickedly appalled and delighted. Unfortunately, this is where I fall into my own etiquette hell. I'm afraid I have fallen behind in my thank you note writing. To all who have yet to receive your - I'm very sorry. I really am working on them. You will get one eventually, I promise. We really do appreciate all the gifts and cards we have received and we want to thank everyone.

If you are still thinking bad thoughts about me, check out the Thank You Note section on Etiquette Hell and I promise you will realize I'm not that bad:-)

Our babies have found their voices

*sigh* Our perfect, no-fussy, no-crying babies have turned normal. The last few days have been challenging.

Something is up with Abby. My personal opinion is that she is getting a tooth. When we try to feed her, she has taken to screaming and crying. She hasn't been eating very well the past few days. Let's see, since we messed things up by trying the #2 nipple actually. Hmmm. I really do think there's something wrong - either a new tooth or ear ache or something. Or she developed quite an aversion to food - which is very bad. Hopefully it's just a phase. We have the only babies I know that cry when they HAVE to eat instead of crying when they are hungry.

Little Natalie is doing slightly better. At least she's not screaming every time. But, she's not sucking well and her volumes are down as well.

I think we have decided to ignore anything else the doctor says. We'll just smile and nod and go home and keep doing what we do. Of course, we don't have another appointment for a while so maybe by then we'll have everything under control and they won't need to offer any advice.

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Three Steps Forward - Two Steps Back

First - let me say that I really do love the people over at the Duke Special Infant Care Clinic. They are very sweet and will do just about anything for you. They genuinely seem to care for the girls and always seem happy to see us. They have been very encouraging and I really do enjoy seeing them and talking to them when we visit.

BUT - I'm beginning to feel like every time we visit the SICC, we take two steps back. We always seem to be doing pretty well when we show up. Then, they give us a new idea or new instruction and next thing you know, we are going backwards.

Our newest setback involves, as always, feeding. We have been doing really good. The girls have been taking 80mls about 80% of the time. The visits to the pediatrician showed great weight gain. We were quite excited. I will admit that the girls have been throwing up a bit more. I thought it was due to the increased volume and we not burping well. Sometimes, we knew it was our fault. There were definately times when we would try to force down the last few mls and we would cause them to gag and throw up. The girls have also been choking a little bit with their feeds. It sort-of comes and goes really. There were a few days when they were doing really, really well not choking. Then they would have a few days of difficulty.

Well, when I shared all this with Amanda (the Speech Therapist who is really the sweetest thing ever), she was concerned - especially with the choking. Her suggestion was to start using the #2 Dr. Brown nipple instead of the #3 nipple. The #2 nipple is slower. Okay. We'll try it.

Well, once again, it's been a disaster. The girls just can't suck hard enough to drink enough. Since using the #2, they've had less 400mls per day. That is no where near enough. So, once again, we had scrapped the doctor-prescribed plan and gone back to what works - the #3 nipple. For the last two feeds, they have eaten much better. We will be more careful and try to keep them from choking as much.

Other than that, the visit was good. Abby even made the growth curve! She's now at 10%. Natalie is almost on the curve. Abby weighed in at 11.8lbs and Natalie 10.5lbs. They are getting longer too. Abby is 22.5 inches and Nat 22 inches even.

Also on the good side, the clinic was able to give us lots of free cans of Neosure formula. They also included two coupons for two frees CASES of formula. With my milk production still woefully low, this really comes in handy.

I really do love the doctors, ST, and support staff at the clinic. But, it really seems like each trip becomes an exercise in futility.

Well, it's 12:30am and I hear babies grunting on the monitor. It's time to make the donuts:-)

Saturday, December 15, 2007

Doctor and Feeding Update

We've actually had a bit of a break from the multitude of doctors appointments. But, we've had a few this week and need to report.

Thursday: Eye doctor - ROP check-up

It was a great appointment. Abby's eyes checked out completely mature. They look like full term babies' eyes. She doesn't have to be seen again for 6 months! Natalie also had a good report. She has one that is mature and one that is still stage 1, Zone 3. She will have another check-up in 6 weeks.

Both girls are still at risk for other issues, like lazy eye, even after the ROP is gone. We just have to watch for any odd eye activity and they will continue to see the eye doctor regularly. But, it was a great report and we are very pleased.

Friday: Pediatrician - the dreaded weigh-in

I declare - these girls have their weights watched more closely than a wrestler. The news was good though.

Abby weighed in at 11lbs 4oz! Her last weight two weeks ago was 10 lbs 10oz, so she's gained 8oz which is great. It's still a little less than desired, (12oz would have been better) but it's still great.

Natalie did even better. She weighed 10lb 4oz, up 12oz from 9lbs 8.4 oz! That's terrific!

Since they are doing so well, we are going to take a few days and try a 3 hour feeding schedule. They need to eat about 80mls each time for it to work. They've been taken 70-75ml pretty consistently. The worst time of day is in the morning. They just refuse to eat. Usually they eat well for Ben at 6 or 7am. You would think they would since they haven't eaten on 5-6 hours. But, sometimes, they still only eat 50-60mls. Then, they usually refuse to eat at 8am. We've been getting up at 11am and then only because my guilt propels me out of bed. I try to feed them and they STILL don't want to eat. They only really get going in the afternoon.

Hopefully, we can get them started well, and we can start the 3 hour thing. Feeding every two hours is getting pretty tiresome. The good news is that the plan has been working. The girls are growing and gaining weight. We do have another Duke Clinic appointment next week and this time I'm looking forward to it.

Santa Claus is Coming to Town


So, this is the girls´ first Christmas so, of course, we have to do all the traditional Christmas stuff.

Phase One: Meet Santa

Our plan last Friday was to be on Santa´s doorstep at the mall when he arrived at 10am. We thought this would help minimize germs. Ben had the day off so it should have been no sweat. But, you know what they say about the best laid plans... By the time we fed them, dressed them in their adorable little Christmas dresses, and I pumped, we managed to get to the mall about 11:45am.

Parking near Macy's, we made our way into the mall. As I walked beside Ben as he pushed our tank of a double stroller, I was grinning from ear to ear. Ben actually looked over at me and said I was beaming. It was a big moment for us. This was our first real public outing (besides doctor's appointments). I felt like we were such the little family. It was the kind of moment you dream about when you imagine having kids. It was perfect.

We wondered our way through the department store discovering early on that needing to use the elevator to get upstairs resigns you to some dark corner of department store no-mans-land. We cruised through the mall making our way towards Santa. It seemed fitting to stop for cookies, and besides, I was hungry:-) We reached Santa's doorstep at 12:50 and encountered something unexpected: pagers. Apparently, you get a pager and they buzz you when it's time to get in line just like at a restaurant. We actually arrived just before Santa's lunch break, so we then had to wait an hour before getting in line.

We used the time well. We found a little table within site of Santa's Winter Wonderland, and feed the girls. As expected, we garnered a lot of attention. Going out in public with twins is really quite amusing. On the internet boards I visit, it's often mentioned and some people get irritated and annoyed. One really must maintain a sense of humor. We get a lot of, "are they twins?" Well, yes, there are two of them. "How old are they". Well, they are almost 7 months old" (pause for strange looks),"but they were preemies, so they are actually about 3 1/2 - 4 months old". (big nods of understanding - sometimes with more detailed questions to follow). "Are they girls or boys?" Two girls (sometimes their little dresses aren't visible). Then there are the general comments along the lines of "double trouble", "you have your hands full", etc. We did see two other sets of twins including some boys with their stay-at-home dad. We chatted with one mother for a little while which was kind of nice.

About 1:50, we were buzzed, and took our place in line for Santa. We didn't have to wait long since we were 3rd in line. Santa was great. The girls were perfect. Natalie slept through the whole thing and Abigail was adorable. For the "official" picture, they even were able to make Abby laugh. We forked over the $20 for 2 5x7's and took a few with our own camera. They originally said we could only take 3 pictures???, but once they knew we were buying some, they were more agreeable. I will say the "official" picture was amazing. I'm going to try to scan it in and will post it later if I can.

By now, it's almost 2:30, and everyone (meaning mom and dad) is getting tired. We negotiate our way back through the mall and take our little Santa babies home.

It was really a fun little outing. We felt like a normal family doing normal family things. When we do "normal" things, it always seems a little surreal to me. I get nearly giddy with happiness. As a nanny, I spent a lot of time taking other people's kids to do really fun things. I would always imagine what it would be like when I did the same things with my own children. I am finally getting to live that dream, and it leaves me deliriously happy.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

a little teaser

Hi everyone! I'm so sorry I haven't updated in a few days. It seems like I'm very busy.

My computer is running out of energy, so let me just say that updates and pictures will be coming soon.

Stay tuned - and thanks for checking in.

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

We're famous

A month or two ago, I posted a letter to the editor of TWINS Magazine on their website in response to an article about TTTS. One of the criteria always mentioned for TTTS is a monochoronic pregnancy. I wrote about our situation of having TTTS with a dichorionic twins. My point was to suggest that perhaps all twin pregnancies needed to be closely monitored for TTTS.

Well, I actually received several emails from them stating they researched it and only found one other documented case of di/di TTTS. They think it occurs if at the placenta is differentiating at the exact moment the egg splits (or something like that). I was quite impressed they emailed me back.

Shortly after that, I received a call from the editor of the magazine. She wanted to speak to me about our situation. I left an email for her to call me since that was easier, and today she did!

She is writing an article about it for the January/February issue! Isn't that neat? She agrees that twin pregnancies should all be closely monitored.

I think it's neat that our girls could help make a difference in the medical community at large. We were lucky our OB had us do so many ultrasounds. If she had not - who knows what might have happened. I'm hopeful that close monitoring will become the standard for all twin pregnancies.

What I Love About My Ben

I am so lucky to have the best husband in the whole world. Ben amazes me in a hundred ways every day. These are just a few...

*I love the way he gets up at 6am to feed the girls.

* I love the way he got mad when people were visiting and got up at 6am instead of him. He felt like he was missing his "special time" with the girls and wanted to do it himself.

* I love the way he works hard all day at his job so I can stay home with the girls and we can have everything we need.

* I love the way he comes home for lunch and walks straight in and grabs a bottle to feed a baby before he even sits down to eat.

* I love the way he has a hard time leaving after lunch because he is playing with his daughters.

* I love the way he looks at his daughters with so much love and tenderness.

* I love the way Natalie was smiling up at him tonight - she loves her Daddy so much.

* I love the way he tells me all the time how grateful he is that I work so hard to pump milk for our babies. He is so encouraging and thankful and supportive.

* I love the way he walks in after a hard day at work and immediately begins to feed a baby.

* I love the way missed us when we went to my mom's for a week. By Wednesday night, he had tears in his eyes.

* I love the way he says "my girls".

* I love the way he gets excited when the girls leave him "presents" in their diapers.

* I love the way he doesn't expect me to clean(much) or have a home-cooked dinner waiting for him when he walks in.

* I love the way he thinks I have the hardest job in the world. He's always saying how he could never stay home all day and he is so glad I want to.

* More than anything, I love being on of "his girls."

Monday, December 3, 2007

Daddy is tired

As Johelen had mentioned previously, I took the girls for the day to my parents house in Goldsboro. The girls had a great time with Grandma and Grandpa and even Great Grandma. They all took turns with the feeding, although Daddy had to show his 133t sk1lz at times. I know Grandpa was a little frustrated when both girls refused to drink all of their milk. In his words, "they won". But they did an excellent job and I even got to go to bed at a reasonable hour. Thank you Mom and Dad!

Then on Sunday we took the girls to their first church service at Trinity Baptist where my parents attend. Lots of little ole ladies oooooing and ahhhing at the girls and a good time was had by all. Except Abby who proceeded to uncharacteristically fuss right as the preacher started speaking. Guess we'll have to spike the breast milk with some holy water ;)

I'm glad that wifee was able to have some time off. She certainly deserves it with all the work she does. Hopefully I'll be able to take the girls more often, although Grandpa has got to work on his feeding skills.

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Heavyweight Champions of the World!

We are so excited we can hardly stand it. We had a pediatrician appointment Thursday, and for once, we had great news.

In this corner...weighing in at 9 lbs 8.4oz - Miss Natalie!

In the opposite corner...weighing in at 10 lbs 10oz...Abigail!

Isn't that fantastic? They both gained almost 9ounces in the 7 days since their last appointment. We are very happy. The two-hour plan is working, and we finally feel like we don't have to worry ourselves to pieces any more.

Mommy's Day Off

Mommy has a day off! This morning at 8am, Ben took off with the girls to his parents house. They will return some time tomorrow afternoon. Mommy is freeeeee!

After kissing the girls and Ben good-bye at 8am, I did what all free Mommy's do. I went back to bed. Until 2pm. It was beautiful. Mommy Day began with the only baby-related activity I have this weekend - pumping. Then there was Chinese food and movies. Currently I am drinking champagne and bonbons. Okay, not really. I have chocolate covered strawberries and the cheapest champagne I could find.

I finally have the time to do some things that needed doing - like paying bills, blogging, and putting together the girls baby announcement. What I'm NOT doing is cleaning.

I miss my babies (and Ben), but it really nice having some Jo time.


ps - What is a bonbon anyway? Has anyone ever had one? In the interest of science and trivia, I did a little research.

bonbon - In Europe a bonbon is a candy, the simplest form of bonbon is essentially sugar coated almonds. In the modern era the use of almonds as a centre has declined, and a bonbon can be any confection with a fondant center, often with fruit or nuts, covered in fondant or chocolate, or any other confection consisting of a sweet centre covered by a loose sugar or flavoured coating.[1][2] Although not technically a bon bon in the conventional sense, the term is also used in respect of Fruit Bon Bons, a hard boiled sweet with a soft fruit centre.
Bonbon is also the French and German word for candy.

A bonbon is also the brand name for an American sweet, consisting of a small ball of ice cream, roughly the size of a cherry, coated in chocolate. Sold in cardboard buckets, they are rarely seen today. Bonbons can also be more like truffles, with some type of filling inside.

Just thought you would want to know.